7 Ways To Get The Groom Excited About Wedding Planning

7 Ways To Get The Groom Excited About Wedding Planning

Traditionally, wedding planning has always been the bride's territory, but now grooms are becoming increasingly interested in what is being done for their wedding-day. We find that many grooms actually want to be included in the planning process now, and of course when we're talking numbers! But what do you do when you find that your soon-to-be hubby just isn't that interested in wedding planning with you and you really want him to be? We've got 9 things you can try to get your fiancé excited about planning your wedding:

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Advantages of Hiring A Wedding Planner

Advantages of Hiring A Wedding Planner

You may have your dream wedding all pinned and saved on your secret Pinterest board along with screenshots and a few ideas of your own, but when it comes to actually planning and getting it all done...can you go it alone? Some can take on the heat, while others would rather sit back and enjoy the journey of what is one of the most exciting yet hectic times of your life. We advise that you take advantage of hiring a wedding planner so that you can enjoy every moment of the beautiful planning process! Here are a couple reason why:

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Thanksgiving Tablescapes You Need to See

A pretty table draped in rich linens set with china, mixed and mingled with flowers and metallic touches... Today we are sharing inspiration and tips on simple yet memorable designs to create a Thanksgiving table setting to enjoy with family and friends! The first thing that comes to mind when you think of Thanksgiving is food, of course, but we’d like to suggest that your Thanksgiving table decor ought to please the eyes, as well. Here are a few of our favorite color palettes and pieces for the season!

Fleur Inc.

This gorgeous setting shines with autumn splendor by mixing rich chestnut and warm colors against the fresh white dinnerware and delicate greenery. The bronze flatware and candlesticks complement the lush butterscotch and burgundy bloom centerpieces.

HMR Designs

Go bold for a November event or a traditional Thanksgiving feast! The navy linen serves as the perfect base for the bold striking autumn tones. The brass, amber, and copper-tone accessories, add a golden hue to the evening. Burgundy candles and fresh garden centerpieces down the center, elongate the table to create the elusion of a larger space. Simple white dinnerware is all you need for this table setting!

Style Me pretty

If you want to do something different from the brown, yellow and orange color scheme, the classic black and white decor is a fantastic alternative that brings chic to your holiday celebration! Decorate with white pumpkins and black patterns. Incorporate gold or silver into the dinnerware and choose a sleek, refined linen. Fresh flowers, vegetables and fruit will refresh the table décor and add pops of color to the design!

These festive Thanksgiving tablescape exude warmth and comfort!

This rustic style tablescape has a beautifully finished wooden table and soft brown table runner with an eclectic arrangement of gourds, fresh florals and bronze trim lanterns. The bronze flatware, chargers and stunningly detailed glassware bring a touch of elegance to this rustic inspired tablescape! 

Pumpkin candles, sunflowers, and gold rimmed glassware are a nod to Fall. The berry colored jars add a bold pop of color against the simple, textured nude linens. The silver vintage style flatware and custom designed menus add a personal touch to the tablescape! Plus, the cute pumpkin candle favors!

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All About Table Settings

How to Properly Set A Table

It is reasonable not to know where to start when it comes to properly setting a table. The first thing to ask yourself is will you be having an informal relaxed brunch or a fabulous multi-course dinner? No matter what the occasion, the table setting and placement always depends on your menu. Some utensils are optional depending on what you plan to serve. No soup? A soup spoon won’t be needed. No bread and butter? Skip the bread plate and butter knife. If your still not confident, let us at The Palatine be your guide!

Remember the scene in the iconic movie, Titanic, where Jack experienced a first-class dinner for "saving" Rose's life? A rule of thumb we all learned is to work from the outside inward. The outer utensils should match your first course and each utensil after that should match the order in which courses will be served. Let this diagram be your guide and plan accordingly to meet the needs of your menu.

Informal/Casual Table Setting

This setting includes a plate and napkin, two forks to the left, a knife and spoon to the right, and lastly a wine and water glass in the upper right-hand corner.
Tip #1: Include ONLY what you need. Remember that this is just a guide and some pieces are optional.
Tip #2: The blade of the knife always faces toward the plate

Formal Table Setting

Start with the basic informal setting above and add utensils for a more formal meal with more courses and refreshments. The base of this setting is a service plate which is also known as a charger. Place the service plate under the dinner and salad plates. The bread plate and butter knife should be to the upper left corner. The dessert utensils should be above the service plate.
Tip #3: Napkins can be placed on top of the plate, to the side, or under the forks. Some napkin folds might include the utensils which can add a special touch of style to your setting.
Tip #4: For any setting, think of the word “FORKS”. F is for the forks to the left, O is for the plates because of the shape, K and S is for the knife and spoon to the right.


Be able to set a table so that you feel like you’re dining, not just sitting & eating
— MARILYN VOS SAVANT (Growing Up: A Classic American Childhood, p. 45)

Host A Dinner Party In Style

We have everything you need to throw a fabulous dinner party. Make it a night to remember for you and your guests - in RSVP style! 

Everyone loves a good party, from the fab drinks and delectable snacks to the endless laughs and memories you make with friends and family. Whether you’re planning something large or small, we’ve got you covered to make it a stylish hit. 

Dishware

When it comes to dishware, you want to go with stylish yet practical and appropriate. Keep in the mind the season, theme (if you have one) and if it's a casual or formal gathering. 

We've gathered some of our favorite RSVP dinnerware collections below to suit every style! 

Casual Dinnerware

Many people get hung up on the idea of casual vs. fine china. The distinction between the two is arbitrary; nothing is stopping you from using your “formal” china everyday! And why not, fine china patterns are designed to be appreciated. At the same time, there is nothing like serving guests on flawless china during those big family dinners and special events. Bottom line: you can never have enough china!
— Michael C. Fina

Coasters & Placemats

Agate Coasters named after the Portuguese word for rock, the Pedra Collection features organic azure agate, a material once thought to protect its guardians from danger. Each piece is subtly one of a kind, bringing a little jewel-toned beauty to your home.

Flatware

Glassware & Stemware

Say cheers with the sophistication of unique and distinctive Champagne Flutes exclusively at RSVP Style. 

Table Decor

Nothing uplifts a room or your spirits like a bouquet of fresh flowers, so dress up your dinner table and home with signature luxe styles from Stems at The Palatine

Top 10 Flowers for Bridal Bouquets

The Rose

First, is the most popular wedding flower of them all - the rose. Garden roses and standard roses are seen the most. It is no secret that roses symbolize love, but they also symbolize joy and beauty. There are several other meanings to roses as well which depend on the color and shade. Red roses for example often represent a deep love, desire, romance, and sexiness. On the other hand, pale pink roses represent gentleness, grace, and sweetness. No matter the color or type, roses pair well with any other kind of flower! And because of their sturdiness they do well in other floral elements such as boutonnieres, corsages, centerpieces, and sculpted and shaped arrangements. 
(Fun note: Standard roses at Stems at the Palatine are called import roses because they are almost always imported.)

Garden Roses

Standard Import Roses

Peonies

Peonies symbolize every wish for a couple entering into this stage of their life - a happy life, happy marriage, good health and prosperity. There could not be a more relevant flower! Peonies bloom in late spring, early summer and are deliciously fragrant. They’re perfect for filling out full bouquets and centerpieces. These flowers are usually used in celebrations with light color palettes. 

Hydrangea

One of the main traits of a healthy, lasting relationship is understanding and that is what hydrangeas symbolize.  With countless shades to pick and choose from, these flowers are great for filling up a bouquet or centerpiece. They create texture and volume to any piece and are easily paired with several other flowers. These bloom best in the spring and fall seasons and are typically a better choice for people sensitive to allergies. 

Anemone

Anemones symbolize expectation. When getting married you have a lot of expectations - of yourself, your partner, your marriage and your wedding day, of course. These flowers are striking and great for bouquets and arrangements because they bloom in either single or double blossoms. If you’re not a fan of floral scents this is the flower for you - it typically has no scent! You can find Anemones in the fall to spring seasons. They have a round appearance with a dark center and softer colored petals. 

Petite Callas

Petite callas symbolize many things like magnificent and overwhelming beauty, faith and purity, overcoming challenges, and liveliness and youth.  Other meanings are associated with these flowers as well, depending on color and shade. These bloom in spring and summer and are lightly fragrant. They are popular in tropical themes as well as classic, minimalist-styles. 

Succulents

Once thought to only belong in the desert or on your porch, succulents are now taking the wedding world by desert storm! These plants are no longer stuck in the heat, with their divine style and durability they are more popular now than ever before.

 

Dahlias

Dahlias bloom in multiple layers which work great for filling out bouquets and adding volume. In the Victorian era, the language of flowers was extremely popular. During that time Dahlias symbolized a lasting bond and commitment. Some varieties of this flower can grow up to 12” which can be unique and perfect for making a statement in your wedding. They are bushy flowers, bold in color, and spicy in scent. These make gorgeous summer and fall bouquets. 

Orchids

Orchids are popular choices for a tropical, island themed wedding. These flowers represent love, charm and beauty. They are in season all year-round and are almost always imported, which can hike up the price. These exotic flowers are perfect for an island lover and come in several types, colors and sizes. Phalaenopsis and Cymbidium orchids are two very popular types! Orchids are a versatile choice because they suit fabulous bountiful arrangements and minimalist-style pieces. 

Phalaenopsis Orchids

Cymbidium Orchids

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The Vow Factor: Wedding Etiquette To Plan Your Perfect Day

By Mary C. Papaleo

Floral & Event Stylist of Stems at the Palatine in Fresno, California


Etiquette is defined as the rules indicating the proper and polite way to behave. Many of today’s brides and grooms are searching for an understanding of the traditional sense of manners and some sort of guideline.

Weddings are personalized ceremonies and celebrations. Endless cultures and customs have paved their way into popular and mainstream choices for many bridal couples. Is there a “correct” way to handle an entire wedding from beginning to end? My answer is “NO!” However, there are many aspects that need to be handled in a manner that doesn’t offend or upset any one person involved, which may prove to be a bit daunting.

Think about who is involved in and attending your wedding. The personalities and backgrounds of your family, bridal party and guests are key to developing a celebration that will include all of their ethnicities and spiritual paths. While you and your groom clearly come first for the core of the ceremony and celebration, the goal is for all to take part in and unanimously enjoy your union. For example, if you and your groom hail from religious upbringings, most likely your families will expect a spiritual ceremony. If this is not your intent, explain your reasoning to them at the initial stages of planning to avoid disappointment and arguing as you progress further into your timeline. There are always compromises available, such as having your non-religious ceremony and then having a clergyman bless your marriage at the end of the ceremony in prayer.

I recommend that all of my brides and grooms have several meetings with their involved family, predominantly their parents, throughout the planning process to keep all informed of major decisions, and to solicit their advice and ask for their preferences as you go. This helps all to feel as though they have had an integral part of planning and assisting you both in the most important day in your lives. All involved will learn to adjust and compromise. Do not forget, you are joining more than you and your groom in life forever; you are joining your families. This is a foreign experience for all involved, even if you have been a couple for years prior to engagement. Sensitivity to this is key in extending your etiquette for consideration to all involved.  Invest time into discussing and envisioning what you and your groom expect your wedding day to be. First and foremost, if the two of you do not agree on what you’re anticipating, no one else involved will either. Communication is critical. The two of you must have an open dialogue at all times. This holds true for your entire life, not just for planning this event.


Use your resources. If you are unsure if something you want is proper or acceptable, ask your peers, parents or vendors. They will typically be able to lend advice as to the appropriateness of what you’re wanting. Online resources are a fabulous resource. You will find diverse thoughts and facts on endless aspects and protocol for weddings.
Emily Post is the epitome of etiquette. From the very beginning of modern ceremonies to today’s variations, you will find answers in Post’s publications.

Hire a qualified wedding planner and coordinator. Avoid using friends and relatives that “just planned” their own or their daughter’s wedding. You need an unbiased and experienced professional to address any and all concerns. Consider hiring your planner as an insurance policy. Their fee is protecting and ensuring that all of your time, emotion and money are well appropriated, and implemented the way you intend.

From your save the dates to your thank you notes, you set the stage on the mannerisms you’re imparting as a couple and for your wedding. Be sure to address them appropriately. Even if you want a casual feel, keep your print items formally addressed. Do not use printed labels, ever. You do not have to hire a professional calligrapher, however, hand addressed or professionally printed is necessary.

Attire is an area that needs careful consideration. Keep in mind that marriage is a tender and memorable occasion. Trends are fun, however, they can tend to date stamp your event and can somewhat downplay tradition. Flair that lends to your personality is acceptable when kept in check.


For the gentlemen, tuxedos, suits, vests and trousers are all intermixable. Correctly fitted apparel is critical for all involved. Shoe selection can be whimsical for the gents, as well as the ladies. From cowboy boots to sneakers, keeping the footwear fun and comfortable is appreciated by most. The venue for your ceremony must be kept in mind for these options. A cathedral or temple is not the place for these casual choices. Reserve this for the reception and have your grand entrance make note of your festive flair.

Celebration is what all anticipate. So celebrate… with style. Be careful – fun can get out of hand quickly. Keep your liquor controlled. This will also help in control- ling costs and liability. Hosting a bar is not required at any reception.


Food is an open field. There truly is no etiquette when it comes to your fare. Thoughts to keep in mind include ease of service, and the mess factor involved for you and your guests. People are typically dressed in their best. I know I’m not interested in eating with my hands when I attend a wedding, nor am I thrilled with overly spicy or pungent selections. Ethnic food is acceptable, keeping in mind that not all may enjoy this choice. Scaling ethnic selections down and pairing with a few mainstream options is always appreciated.

Music should be mellow and toned down for the initial cocktail hour and dinner portion of the reception. Keep the upbeat “club” tones for after the formal portions of the eve- ning. Allow guests to enjoy intimate conversations among themselves, as well as your toasts and special dances. The older guests tend to depart once they’ve indulged in all of the tradition. At a later point, let your hair down and celebrate with your friends with the vibe you enjoy.
Décor should be personalized and within reason. Thematic weddings are on an upswing these days. Selecting a theme that will not take away from the event at hand is key. Taste is always the key.
Centerpieces should never impede the conversation view of your seated guests. Fragrance in fresh flowers should be kept to a minimum, as well. Floral décor accessorizes your entire event and should reflect your personalities and tastes.  Attention to small details will be noticed and appreciated by all attending, from the place cards to the china to the linens. Pay attention to keeping these details cohesive and appropriate to your overall event.

Don’t drown in a glass of water in all of this planning. Organize your thoughts and wants from the very onset of engagement. Work as a partner with your bride or groom. Communicate clearly with your family and vendors. Hire professionals in all areas. They have years of experience and will alleviate enormous amounts of stress from your load. Personalize your wedding with fresh, new ideas that will make your wedding stand out. When in doubt, ask. Enjoy every moment of this experience.

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